tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273909430922264674.post2395362593839472792..comments2023-11-03T06:07:07.363-04:00Comments on Lori Does Maryland: What a weekend....Lorihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828552745708177768noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273909430922264674.post-47257575800915988592010-04-13T17:34:48.376-04:002010-04-13T17:34:48.376-04:00I think it was good that you went to the retreat. ...I think it was good that you went to the retreat. I would actually love to go to something like that myself.Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15431384515813384025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273909430922264674.post-42494993737684100582010-04-13T15:39:27.765-04:002010-04-13T15:39:27.765-04:00Your therapist's insight is interesting. I...Your therapist's insight is interesting. I'd always assumed one should share the pain as much as possible, but maybe that's not always the best way to help. I'm glad you're surrounded by those who've been there / are there (unfortunately) to offer empathy and comfort, as well as those who haven't to offer sympathy and hope - each serves a purpose. I hope there's no one in your life who ever expects you to be "better" or done grieving, a year from now or twenty...even though I haven't been in your shoes, that seems pretty obvious.<br /><br />Also glad that the weekend was a positive experience (as much as it could be) and that you have much to take home with you. I hope you can focus on the good that came out of the retreat for now - as you said, save the difficult questions for a little later. I'd think the people you met can help you and John with them.<br /><br />And your request that we not take a moment or opportunity with our kids for granted? Matthew has already reinforced that for me, x100. I think of him, and parents like you, as I go through the day with my own little ones - every time a request is made of me or I weigh taking the easy way instead of the more time- or energy-consuming. I consciously put the little things into perspective as well as I can. I'm not nearly perfect at it, but I really try, in his memory. Thank you for the reminder - it's one that can't be repeated enough.Julianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273909430922264674.post-34348982207570070092010-04-13T13:22:32.923-04:002010-04-13T13:22:32.923-04:00Lori,
Oh...I am glad you were able to share your t...Lori,<br />Oh...I am glad you were able to share your thoughts. And I love how Heather articulated her words.<br />That is exactly how I feel so far in my journey....<br /><br />I need to get that book...<br /><br />You are so precious to me....<br /><br />Hugs....Gottjoy!https://www.blogger.com/profile/16122254540480281334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273909430922264674.post-75362443406303129452010-04-13T11:59:09.838-04:002010-04-13T11:59:09.838-04:00Sounds like you had a beautiful weekend. ((hugs))...Sounds like you had a beautiful weekend. ((hugs))With Out My Punkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18281873659003034133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273909430922264674.post-19859212683280489852010-04-13T11:01:39.676-04:002010-04-13T11:01:39.676-04:00Beautiful. :-) So glad you weekend went well, and ...Beautiful. :-) So glad you weekend went well, and that you gained much from it.Lilly's Mom (Desiree)https://www.blogger.com/profile/16862366625483089738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273909430922264674.post-54389931423858612882010-04-13T10:46:57.473-04:002010-04-13T10:46:57.473-04:00oops - I meant to say you miss *Matthew* not *Made...oops - I meant to say you miss *Matthew* not *Madelyn*. I'm sure you can understand that error - she is just always on my mind.Heatherhttp://www.heathermohr.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273909430922264674.post-29628131784322583152010-04-13T10:45:54.717-04:002010-04-13T10:45:54.717-04:00You are so right - just because you choose not to ...You are so right - just because you choose not to let grief define you does not mean you are less sad or miss Madelyn any less. And just because I felt the sun shining in my life, and I was able to take a breath of fresh air, finally letting go of the stale, dry, suffocating type of grief, does not mean I not longer have grief in my life, or that I no longer cry or ache for my sweet girl. Those are the things that will never change. We will ache. We will cry. We will forever know the pain of losing a child. The sun cannot remove that. One of my favorite things has always been the type of rain that comes on a sunny, cloudless day. I don't know about you, but I think that is the perfect image for the rest of my life. Things might look better, my life might go on, I might have happiness, and the sun might shine, but even still, it is raining. It will never, ever stop raining.<br /><br />I'm really glad you enjoyed the conference and that God has worked in your life in so many ways.Heatherhttp://www.heathermohr.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273909430922264674.post-73675016977918058052010-04-13T08:56:09.818-04:002010-04-13T08:56:09.818-04:00I am thrilled the retreat was so informative and c...I am thrilled the retreat was so informative and comforting. I prayed for you both throughout the weekend. I prayed for healing and peace. I know you will always grieve but you are right...it is a season!veraladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15062149888753215068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273909430922264674.post-8628072901385975822010-04-13T00:15:43.387-04:002010-04-13T00:15:43.387-04:00That book is amazing. I just got it a few weeks a...That book is amazing. I just got it a few weeks ago and have read it every night and some parts I read over and over again. I'm so thankful for it!!!Monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09791014849753457498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273909430922264674.post-29911972272204013152010-04-12T17:16:27.982-04:002010-04-12T17:16:27.982-04:00Your comment about sympathy vs. empathy is a great...Your comment about sympathy vs. empathy is a great reminder for all of us in so many areas of life. As is taking the extra time to be with our loved ones and not sweating the small stuff. I pray this weekend will be just one more push in helping you put one foot in front of the other. There will never be a magic "cure" for what you are feeling, for what you are living...just the encouragement to move forward as Lori, as John's wife, as Matthew's mom, and all of the other hats you are wearing and will wear. <br /><br />And of course, you and John are always covered in prayer.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00683209100623784524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273909430922264674.post-68995933846303160992010-04-12T16:54:17.237-04:002010-04-12T16:54:17.237-04:00xoxoxxoxoxoxooxoxxoxoxxoxoxoxooxoxbellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13338099802954577987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273909430922264674.post-32959504535151783302010-04-12T16:31:23.124-04:002010-04-12T16:31:23.124-04:00Lori,
So happy the retreat served as a vehicle of...Lori,<br /><br />So happy the retreat served as a vehicle of healing and one of clarity. You are right, there will be more tears and you will still be sad, but you have committed to making strides forward and that is wonderful. One day at a time, one step at a time sweet friend. And, I'll be here rallying you on!<br /><br />Much Love and Many Prayers,<br />xoAndreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06709001842788289402noreply@blogger.com