tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273909430922264674.post1270926988501261899..comments2023-11-03T06:07:07.363-04:00Comments on Lori Does Maryland: Dear Anonymous,Lorihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828552745708177768noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273909430922264674.post-77796820933130881262009-06-27T17:48:16.056-04:002009-06-27T17:48:16.056-04:00Lori, I totally understand where you are coming fr...Lori, I totally understand where you are coming from. When my boys were younger, they acted as boys do. My mother told me that they were brats and that I was a horrible mother. For several years, I did not talk to her. My feeling is that love is unconditional and if she didn't want my children, she couldn't have me. When we were ready to bring Jyly home, I put myself out there and tried to work on the relationship. She could not understand why I hurt her so much and had no recollection of the things she said. So, I did what I said I wouldn't do and call and go through the good daughter motions but our relationship will never be the same again. You have to do what is right for you and your family and it is unfortunate that your father is going to miss out on your childs life but that is a choice he has to live with.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273909430922264674.post-28631036355754230392009-06-25T11:23:50.178-04:002009-06-25T11:23:50.178-04:00Lori,
Your post to Anonymous clearly explained yo...Lori,<br /><br />Your post to Anonymous clearly explained your feelings and actions...and I understand them. Your Dad is asking you to create a relationship in a form that is uncomfortable to you, you are asking him to let it be wha it really is and not pretend it is parental/sisterly which it can never be for you. <br /><br />Men don't always understand these things...it's why they need women! Hahaha! <br /><br />I wonder what might happen if you reached out to his wife and sisters with a truly open Christian heart...no anger or animosity towards them but in an attempt to explain that you DO want a relationship with them for both you and your child, but that your Dad seems to think that any relationship has to "look like" mother-daughter-sister instead of friends. I wonder if theya re capable of seeing it from your side if you present it from a prayerful and open perspective. Of course, I am not privy to your relationship with them now and that may be impossible because MANY people want to pretend that their reality is different than it is because it will make them feel and appear to be a "real family" rather than accepting that God creates families in different ways and puts people together who have a lot to learn as they walk through life.<br /><br />I wish for you peace through this and reconciliation someday.<br /><br />Your honesty on your blog allows others to see how complicated life and relationships can be, how hard it can be to pull it all together in a broken world.Cindy LaJoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16486626867331586704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273909430922264674.post-46536148575182150512009-06-24T22:02:13.103-04:002009-06-24T22:02:13.103-04:00Amen!! This is your blog and blog as you like. S...Amen!! This is your blog and blog as you like. Some people just have no clue--or better things to sit there and judge other people. How shallow and narrow their vision must be!janiecehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05960598252053778060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2273909430922264674.post-42377981482786951152009-06-24T21:32:13.681-04:002009-06-24T21:32:13.681-04:00Oh no! So sorry you've been visited by an Ano...Oh no! So sorry you've been visited by an Anon-troll.<br />I once read a very wise fortune cookie fortune "Always speak the truth and you will never need to whisper". With that, I've never had to write anything under the cover of "anonymous". Good words to live by.<br />This is your blog, your life, keep on writing what YOU want to write, no need to justify to anyone.<br />*hugs*Malahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18226198705492411978noreply@blogger.com